Why aren’t we more involved? I believe there are two reasons. First, we are simply too busy. Second, and even more significant, we have come to be over-reliant on experts to teach our children. We have forgotten that when it comes to parenting and instilling life skills in our own children, we are the true experts. Bob Barnes observes,
Despite America’s reputation for resourcefulness, this country hit a point where it no longer knew what to do with its children.… Within barely a decade the American parent had become less a parent and more of a taxi driver, making sure that the children got to the proper subcontractor.
Instead of purposefully involving our children in work and activity at home, we drive them from place to place to let someone else teach them something which may or may not be of value. Then when we do come home, we are too tired and stressed out to take advantage of the teachable moments that occur in family living every day. And we find ourselves having to work to be somehow knitted back into a family because our wide ranging pursuits have carried us so far from one another.
While parents are busy playing taxi driver (and actually gloating over how many activities they are able to squeeze in), they are abdicating so many wonderful opportunities. By keeping their children with them more, they could be the ones to truly impart their values, life view, morals, and standards. The Delany sisters, centenarians noted for their common-sense wisdom, remind us, “If you live right, chances are your children will, too. But teach them everything. What you don’t teach them, someone else will—and you may not like those lessons!”
Life Skills For Kids: Equipping Your Child For The Real World
by Christine M. Field
I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth. ~ 3 John 4