Work together to tailor consequences in your family.
According to Robert Barnes, teaching responsibility requires use of the ICE plan. The I stands for Instruction, the C for Consequence, and the E for the Experience portion of the learning process. The critical ingredient in teaching responsibility is to establish consequences for one’s actions or lack of actions.
Consequences may require some brainstorming on your part. Elizabeth Crary notes two general types of consequences: “(1) Withdraw a privilege for a short while if the privilege is misused (no television, bike, friends over, etc.) or (2) Retribution. If damage is done, it must be repaid or undone as much as possible.” Since the purpose of consequences is not to punish, but to help the child learn, she suggests asking these questions in making a choice: “Is the consequence reasonable? Is the consequence enforceable? Is the consequence clearly related to the offense? Is the consequence consistent with nurturing care? Is there anger, resentment, or retaliation associated with the consequence?”
Life Skills For Kids: Equipping Your Child For The Real World
by Christine M. Field
I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth. ~ 3 John 4