I stumbled upon this in the process of setting life goals. Setting goals involves motivation and motivation involves attitudes and attitudes require you to look at your habits of thought. Are they mostly positive or negative? I read this and can relate to most of these descriptions. Having identified these negative thoughts has helped in eliminating them. I’m not done yet, but I am improving and it is uplifting.
Negative self-scripts are the:
- Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily.
- Negative statements about yourself which sprinkle your everyday conversation.
- Self-deprecating remarks that influence your behavior or beliefs.
- Negative attitudes about the possibility of your achievement of success in your life; these influence your motivation, effort and drive for attainment of goals.
- Dread and fear you have when facing your future; the belief that you do not have what it takes to survive or to be successful in whatever circumstances you face.
- Feelings of inferiority you harbor about yourself and the belief that no matter what you do in life, it will never be “good enough.”
- Negative prophecies that you or others have made about yourself, your future, your success, your relationships, your family, or your health; these haunt you as you face a daily struggle to “win” in life.
- Negative visualizations you have of your current status or state in life to your personal detriment.
- Feelings of failure you harbor about real or imagined mistakes in the past and your “assured” failures in the future.
- Feelings of guilt for real or imagined debilitating wrongs you have committed that prevent positive self-valuing thoughts.
- Negative assessment you or others have made of your competency, skills, ability, knowledge, intelligence, creativity or common sense. You have agreed with this internally and, thus, believe it true of you.
- Negative feedback you get from your spouse, boss, teacher, colleagues, children, parents, relatives or others that you take personally and incorporate into your personal belief system.
- Ways in which you deny yourself rewards for your goodness, hard work and caring by: (1) not taking time to enjoy the fruits of your labor, (2) living in a style of self denial and austerity and (3) being afraid to let down your guard and relax, lest you fail to achieve your “big pay off.”
- Negative stories about your past behavior, failures or performances that you systematically run over in your mind and which influence your current conduct.
- Negative descriptions given to you by members of your family of origin or peer group when you were younger onto which you hold even to this day.
- Feelings of anger, resentment, hostility or rage you feel toward others for real or imagined mistreatment. This so immobilizes you that your emotional growth gets stunted and you feel negatively about both yourself and life in general.
- Feelings of jealousy you harbor toward others whom you perceive (real or imagined) to be more successful, prettier, luckier, better liked, smarter, more talented, more creative and generally better off than you.
- Negative self-images you have of your body, looks, face, weight, coloring, hair, feet or other parts of your body, which as you visualize, influence your presentation of self to others.
- Feelings of over-responsibility with which you burden yourself. This includes the feeling that others in your life will never be able to fully take care of themselves and that you are “responsible” for them no matter what.
- Feelings that there is someone in your life (e.g., your spouse, one of your parents, a family member, a former teacher, a peer, co-worker, a boss) from whom you are still waiting to receive recognition of your worth, your goodness, your competency, your beauty and your overall qualities.
Source: Livestrong.com
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